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Monday, August 29, 2005

There is so much social change going on in here. I can hardly bear it. I don't care if this can be categorised as social change but it is a huge change by all standards. Slowly and steadily, people are accepting it. And what exactly am I talking about?

The girlfriend/boyfriend culture.

Now you see more people having pre-marital affairs than say, 25 years ago. Now you see more parents approving of these relationships. Now you see more ugly girls getting married to handsome boys and vice versa. Now you see more unmarried/unengaged-girl-boy eating out together, strengthening their friendship. Friendship leads to love (though not always, sometimes it leads to disaster but mostly between the opp. sex, yes) and love leads to marriage and marriage leads to kids or divorce. A truly happy ending isn't it.

But, islamically speaking this is all wrong. Completely forbidden. It comes down as a hard fact but thats the way it is. No maulvis are twisting anything, no mullahs are dishing out their own narrow-minded fatwas here, nobody's changing the rule. Often we accept parts of religion that suit us or go according to our tastes, leaving the rest for God knows who to follow and then accusing the maulvis for making islam so difficult. I agree that sometimes the masjid imams or other people who are assumed to be knowledgable about Islam use it for their own advantage too, but thats not always the case. Sometimes the rule as it is, is hard to follow and hence more rewarding.

posted by Niqabi at 8:15 AM

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10:10 AM

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May Allaah keep us all guided on the Straight Path, Aameen.

11:03 AM

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PLEASE

STOP SPAMMING!!

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12:09 AM

Unknown said...

You've touched on a very sensitive topic with this post. It's true that casual physical relationships are not allowed in Islam, but it's also equally true that there are Ahadith that report people marrying of their own will against their parents' wishes and the Prophet PBUH approving, though a tad reluctantly.

If time and my current frame of mind permit, i will write on it...

3:21 PM